womanwhorideslikeaman:

If your first response to someone telling you how HRT made them so ill over a period of years that they lost an insane amount of weight and felt like death every day and that they have since detransitioned for multiple reasons is saying “just remember the science is settled and DONT hate on trans ppl even though you changed ur mind” you have some serious soul searching to do tbh.

1. Talking about the negative impact HRT had on you is important! How will we account for this and improve care unless it’s reported and addressed? Silencing people who’s experience doesn’t match your preferred narrative is bad science and bad praxis, and is literally not how medical research is performed.

2. Don’t assume detransitioners/people with their own concerns and experiences with HRT are ill-intentioned. I was accused of being transphobic for expressing fear abt how hormones affected my health to a trans friend who said I was “just scaring people”. I was the scared one when I was told it would be totally safe and it then created a spiders web of problems that turned by body against me. We need to account for diverse experiences and NOT silence questions.

3. I was on the front line of trans rights marches, was the first friend to transition, and spent five years pursuing surgery, hormones, name change, the whole nine yards. Everyone was rooting for me. The moment I realized how my health was destroyed and how the root of my hatred for my body was trauma and lesbophobia, I was made into an enemy before I could even process what was happening to me. You do not support detransitioners if you assign malice to their journeys and ignore their discoveries.