a few months ago i saw these bitter disgusted posts by a lesbian on here about how nauseating she finds it to look at post-mastectomy detrans women’s bodies and obviously she had a situation with extreme squeamishness at any sort of depiction of wounds or scars in Any way, so i don’t think its root was in hatred of us specifically but the way she expressed it was so close-minded and unwilling to see anything from our perspective or feel any compassion for the suffering that led us to full-on 180s in terms of our identities and perceptions of ourselves. and she said we “have other options in life than romance” and essentially should give up on love entirely since in the PAST we must not have prioritized it if we were willing to rule out our chances at a typical, normative lesbian sex life in an unaltered body— as if our past preferences are something we hold true ETERNALLY and can never change— which is fundamentally at odds with my lived truth, which is that, whether gradually or seemingly shifting in an instant, we can have a different perception of ourselves, perhaps a mirror opposite even, than we once had. and i don’t really have the time to waste explaining that to someone who doesn’t care about my experience, and most people are intrigued and curious and willing to listen, anyway. the oddest thing is she was unwilling to accept that this was not just HER personal (and completely acceptable, in terms of boundaries) belief; she ascribed it to ALL LESBIANS. (when i sent an anonymous message to her saying, i am someone who had a mastectomy at 16, she immediately accused me of lying. lol.) but i’m here to tell you that what she said is false because i’m now in the healthiest and most open in communication relationship i’ve ever had, with a lovely and sweet and compassionate woman who is also a lesbian, who sees me for who i am and is able to comfort me, and be attracted to me, despite the fact i had a body-altering surgery at the age of 16. there are lesbians out there who care about people like us. don’t ever give up hope. love u ❣️🌸🌈