i keep thinking about that tiktok that says essentially “when a trans man says ‘i’m a lesbian’ … KILL YOURSELF” and it makes me angrier every day oh my god like the lack of awareness of the history of lesbian and FTM communities is astounding! where the fuck do you think it all began!!!! for real!

i’m not joking when i say that being told they must forcibly cut themselves off from their former lesbian identity is one of the more isolating and upsetting things that happens en masse to trans men these days. i have been that person and i have seen it firsthand (i have two FTM friends who found their way back to that label in the past few years; one passes as male pretty much constantly! and it doesnt hurt him to call himself a lesbian lmfao) like you truly dont fucking understand how isolating it is to try and be like uhhhh im a straight guy. when that, for lots of people, makes zero sense contextually. i think trans men who are not exclusively attracted to women sometimes misconstrue this, and in their lives they were pushed to falsely identify as lesbians before coming out, due to any sort of “tomboy” behavior being viewed as a sign of gayness rather than simply an acceptable mode of being for any sexuality. and that rly sucks that that happens to them. imo there needs to be a lot more “huh, never thought of it that way!” listening being done between different identity groups bc it straight up seems like some trans men cant imagine any other WOULD feel a strong connection to the lesbian community even after physical transition.

call yourself whatever you want, idc, but do NOT come up to one of the most despised sexual/gender identity groups and make these blanket statements that show such a blatant ignorance for any of our history! trans men’s culture and diverse identities did not begin with “mlm tumblr” in 2018 contrary to what tiktok may say. there have always been trans men in lesbian communities and its not hurting anybody