just talked to my dad (who i kind of sort of know) on the phone and

he told me he stopped drinking 😱

him, my mom, and i have all struggled severely with alcoholism and now NONE OF US DRINK ANYMORE (19 years for my mom, 2 coming on 3 years in february for me, and 11 months for my dad.) he’s been a heavy drinker since his teens and his alcoholic dad traumatized him and he got caught in some fucked up cycle for half a century… well this december, he had an aneurysm and while discussing options post-surgery he did the unthinkable and asked his doctor “what if i stopped drinking?”

he sounded clear and calm on the phone in a way ive NEVER HEARD HIM IN MY LIFE BEFORE!!! he was actually listening to what i was saying and responding… i will not get my hopes up to have a reliable parent once my mom dies… but

maybe he’s becoming some kind of real human being finally at 68 years old